Thursday, January 16, 2014

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On my way to bed last night I stopped by my daughters´room and kneeled down by her bedside. I listened to her breath in and out - little whistling sounds and studied the look of utter peace across her face. Like many mothers, I could sit and watch my child sleep for hours. I whispered in her ear "Mama loves you soooo much. You will always be my baby no matter what." I nearly choked on the last words as a tear trickled down my cheek when I thought about the possibility of not having the chance to be her mother as she grew up. It just made me feel physically ill - thinking about losing out on that experience of molding the child I had created. Because you see - last night when I went to bed I didn´t know what was going to happen today. All I knew was that my doctor had asked me to come in to get the results from Tuesday´s scan. So many scenarios swirled around in my head and most of them were of course horrifically awful. So when I dropped her off at daycare this morning,  I wondered about whether this would be a major moment - the last moment where things would still be normal and that maybe, just maybe when I returned to pick her up again things would be so unbelievably different.


It seems that life has finally given us hope and a lifeline. After three years of disapointments and crushing defeats, we have finally claimed a victory against the Big C. When I saw my doctor wave us in, he smiled - in that comforting "everything is going to be okay" kind of way. Because to be honest I had been close to hyperventilating in the waiting room. We sat down and he said that things actually looked quite good. I think both my husband and I were in shock as after what we have been through, we pretty much had prepared ourselves for the worst. But it seems that the hell I went through last year paid off and there is...Drum roll people - NO EVIDENCE of DISEASE!!!!! Yes that is right folks - I am officially and medically speaking cancer free. It feels good to say it and know it is true. I have earned my second survivorship pin with a PET scan to prove it. I think we should go out and buy a lottery ticket because we definitely have beat the odds on this one and kicked the stats out of the water. I was the first breast cancer patient in Norway to receive this kind of treatment and I am happy to be a success story. It feels fantastic and though my doctor is far from the emotional vocal type, I think he is pretty pleased that he managed to rid my body of this dreaded disease. Of course this is cancer we are talking about so the road doesnt end here and we have many more of these scans to get through but getting through one is reason enough to feel relieved and ecstatic. We did it everybody! See - cancer doesnt always win. :)

There are other things to discuss but I will save those for another day because today is simply going to be the day I was told that I kicked cancer´s ass. So what do I take from this whole life altering experience? Well - as cheesy as it sounds, you really can´t ever give up or stop hoping for things to get better. In just 6 months, I went from wanting to stop chemo because I felt like it was killing me (ironic choice of words) to celebrating slaying the C-dragon to the ground and being able to look at my future with confidence instead of fear. And I finally get to go to Canada! Woohoo!

It is Thursday which I think is acceptably close enough to the weekend to warrant cracking open some champers or wine. So please raise your glass with me and let´s all say together - FUCK CANCER!

Thank you again to all of you who helped me through this latest saga. Friends and family really are the best things a person can have and I think life would be empty and meaningless without them.

Here are some visual reminders:

Love from a super happy cancer free OBB!!!


  1. Great news! I saw your post on FB. I will celebrate with you! I've also defeated TNBC and I'm BRCA+.

  2. I've been reading your blog for a while. I am so happy for you!

  3. Amazing news! Fantastic healing! True miracle!

    Congratulations on being CANCER FREE now. Oh Kate, I am so, so, so truly happy for you. My heart leaps with joy as I read this wonderful news from your blog, which I have been praying and longing to see and witness. I was so very excited that I just can't help shouting out aloud, "God, you've answered our prayer! Give glory to your merciful kindness. You've brought back life to this young woman. You've let her live, she can continue to carry on her amazing her role as a good, loving mother, a caring wife!"

    Kate, celebrate it! Make it a TRUE celebration with your family as you head towards Toronto on the 24th. You have won the battle! You are a Hero, a triumphant Warrior, a Conqueror! May this victory and joy stay with you forever! Forget what has happened ... You are happy now, and you will be HAPPY!
    A big hug and squeeze from Survivor!

  4. dear Kate,

    I am so happy for you, for your husband, for your sweet little girl and all of your family!!! celebrate the hell out of your good news! you have certainly earned it.

    much love and light,

    Karen, xoxoxo

  5. Woot woot!!!! YIPPEE!!!!! Gotta love that perfect man NED! :-) Very happy for you, OBB. Enjoy your trip, your child, your husband. Sigh.

  6. So happy for you and your family. Following your blog, and rooting for you all!!
    You are a Champion :-D

    Fuck it.
    I am so happy for you.


    PS, go you! :)